“Men
always say that as the defining compliment, don’t they? She’s a cool girl.
Being the Cool Girl means I am a hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores
football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping, who plays video games, drinks cheap
beer, loves threesomes and anal sex, and jams hot dogs and hamburgers into her
mouth like she’s hosting the world’s biggest culinary gang bang while somehow
maintaining a size 2, because Cool Girls are above all hot. Hot and
understanding. Cool Girls never get angry; they only smile in a chagrined,
loving manner and let their men do whatever they want. Go ahead, shit on me, I
don’t mind, I’m the Cool Girl."
-Amy Dunne (Gone
Girl)
Cool girls eat whatever they want and stay skinny.
Cool girls never get angry.
If you're hot enough, you don't have to be cool.
If
you've seen the movie Gone Girl, you know that being the cool girl didn't work
out too well for the main character, Amy. Her husband cheated on her with a
"younger, bouncier cool girl." You'll also already know that it
didn't work out too well for him, but I digress. Being the cool girl never
really works out well for anyone. Being the cool girl involves not being like
"other girls," which implies that there is something wrong with women
in general. It's a kind of internalized misogyny. It perpetuates a myriad of
stereotypes of women being full of drama and psycho and catty and high-maintenance.
Being a cool girl is just being a guy in a hot girl's body. Being the cool girl
involves silently standing by when guys call other girls sluts or say that all
girls are crazy. Being a cool girl means being something that you are not and
being passive. Cool girls don't have all those annoying feelings that other
girls have.
The
cool girl persona is perpetuated by both men and women. I will hear guys
discuss things like how annoying it is that girls take so many pictures trying
to get the perfect picture, yet those same guys will criticize a photo of
a girl for being unattractive. How is a girl supposed to win? A cool girl would
never care about what she looks like, but she always looks perfect. The trick
to being a cool girl is to always look and act perfect with the air that you
don't care and aren't trying. Cool girls know the secret, that there is no such
thing as the cool girl in real life, because we all have feelings.
Middle school and high
school girls seem to be especially vulnerable to the cool girl message. These
girls are trying to figure out who they are and how to be accepted, and they
are constantly bombarded with contradictory messages. This is a time that girls
should learn to be assertive, but society is telling them to "Be cool. Be
chill. You don't want people to think you're a psycho like other girls,
right?" Everywhere you turn there are messages telling women what to look
like and how to act. The problem is pervasive. It's not to say that women
aren't cool. There are a lot of women out there who love sports or video games
or have a lot of male friends. There is nothing wrong with this. The problem
with the cool girl stereotype lies in the idea that there is something
wrong with most girls. It also lies in the idea that cool girls don't get
angry, but that's not being cool. That's just being a doormat.
The
first step to combating this harmful cool girl image is to tell young girls
that it is okay to be themselves. Encourage them to have female friendships.
Teach them that it is okay to have feelings. Tell them that they don't have to
be cool and chill all the time in order for people to like them. Be a role
model who speaks kindly of other women and others in general. Teach girls that it is healthy to be assertive. Encourage girls to speak up when they hear guys
or other girls perpetuating negative stereotypes about women. Other than being
role models and encouraging young girls to be assertive, another thing that
might help girls is a mindfulness practice. Mindfulness is a nonjudgmental awareness
of what is happening in the present moment such as thoughts, feelings, and
sensations. I've always been an advocate for yoga and meditation in schools.
These mindful activities build confidence and provide clarity, especially in a
confusing time like middle school. Meditation and yoga have been shown to
decrease stress, promote positive body image, and increase self-confidence.
Mindfulness gives girls the opportunity to slow down and be able to
differentiate the messages of how they "should feel," and experience
how they are actually feeling in that moment. A mindfulness practice is
beneficial to everyone, but would be especially helpful to girls. I added a few
links below to resources for beginning a mindfulness practice.
What
do you think of the cool girl stereotype? Do you think this impossible standard
causes stress for young girls? I challenge you to try one of the mindfulness
exercises in the links below and notice if you feel differently after. If you
don't have much time, the first one, "Leaves on a Stream," is just
over 5 minutes. To begin a mindfulness practice, all it takes is 5 minutes a
day. After trying a mindfulness exercise, let me know in the comments how you
think a mindfulness practice could be helpful to young girls facing the
pressures of society. Thanks for reading!
Mindfulness
Resources:
Leaves on a Stream
10 Minute Mindful Breathing Exercise
10 Minute Yoga Sequence
Mindful Body Scan Exercise
I definitely think that the idea of a cool girl and all that encompasses can be difficult for young girls and add stress to their already difficult transitions. While there are varying opinions of what makes up this cool girl, we know that the double bind exists for women and young girls. There are contradictory and sometimes harmful messages of what it takes to be cool and liked. I think mindfulness could be a great tool to use with a student who may be struggling with fitting in and choosing to stand out or up for who they are. For one, it is very relaxing and taking 5 minutes out of their day to do a mindfulness technique will help relieve some stress. Also, I think it can lead into conversations about truly getting to the core of what is important in their life and what is not…like being popular or the cool girl. After a mindfulness technique, a student may feel more centered and open to talk.
ReplyDeleteI share your belief and that of Alyssa in respect to mindfulness as a way to contradict 'cool girl' persona. It may be ironic to say given that I'm in a English education program, but I also applaud you for pointing that sometimes words aren't what is needed to deflect the popularity-seeking of girls and boys. Practicing yoga and other forms of meditative practices may be more useful in this regard not only as it contradicts the push to be popular by creating a cool-headed girl or boy, but as it centers them spiritually and physically; in turn, creating an overall well-being. Would you put yoga/meditative exercises into a curriculum if given the chance? What would your guidelines for it be to make sure that all participants became resistant to 'cool girl/boy' personas?
ReplyDeleteHi Alexis! I usually learn through reading and writing, and I love English as a subject too, but you're right. Sometimes words aren't enough. I didn't experience any real changes in myself emotionally until I started practicing yoga. I would absolutely put yoga and meditation into the curriculum. I wouldn't have too many guidelines or force anything though. The emotional benefits of yoga happen as a result of a clear and quiet mind, and mindfulness practices are so personal. I would just give the kids the opportunity to sit quietly each morning for maybe 5-10 minutes a day for meditation and not make it too serious. I think yoga could be incorporated by teaching that for PE on certain days. It would have to be playful for the kids to be engaged. Also, if kids are beginning to get antsy in class after sitting for long periods of time, I think it would be great to lead them in a few mindful stretches.
DeleteI believe that there are many girls who let their insecurities show by morphing into this cool girl attitude. However, I also believe that a tomboy who enjoys hanging out with males and also likes to get fancy every once in awhile should not be labeled cool girl. Labeling is a whole different issue within itself but is equally present in the phenomena of cool girl. Being mindful of who you are and what your core values are should be what young girls are taught instead of the do it all attitude. Life already encompasses to much daily stress to also allow worrying about being perfect. If more people would stop judging and labeling I think these personas and feeling the need to do it all will begin to diminish.
ReplyDeleteHi Tesa! Thanks for bringing up this point! There is nothing wrong with being a "tomboy" or girly. Girls definitely shouldn't be labeled or judged for being true to themselves. The "cool girl" quote from Gone Girl really resonated with me because it so eloquently described a girl who was not being true to herself. She was trying to be perfect. I don't even blame her for it. Society places so much pressure on girls that it can be difficult for young girls to even know what their values are. I think a mindfulness practice can help everyone figure out their values, be more compassionate and less judgmental, and be strong and stay true to themselves even when they are judged by others. It can help people stop judging and labeling and turn inward and look at themselves instead.
DeleteTesa has a point with her comments on labeling. I especially liked her comment that, "Being mindful of who you are and what your core values are should be what young girls are taught instead of the do it all attitude." Those words could not be more true in today's society. It also introduces one of the biggest reasons that mindfulness and yoga would be beneficial for adolescent females. Once their cognitive functioning matures to the point that they can understand the concept, adolescent females will be more self-aware. Body scanning and breathing techniques are great for the distress most adolescent girls experience due to the impossible standard society and the girls themselves have placed upon them. Leaves on a stream would be wonderful for those struggling with quieting their anxious minds. The self-awareness that stems from these exercises can help the adolescents get to, Alyssa said, "get to the core of what is important in their life...". Mindfulness and yoga have nothing but benefits and no drawbacks, so I would definitely implement it in a curriculum. In fact, I worked as a line therapist and pre-k teacher using Applied Behavior Analysis to help children with Autism Spectrum Disorder and other developmental disabilities and diagnoses. We often used the YouTube channel "Cosmic Kids Yoga" to entertain and calm the children. It began as an attempt to facilitate some exercise when the summer made in unbearably hot to bring the kids to the playground. The kids were mesmerized by the story and uncharacteristically calm afterwards. It was so effective that it became a part of the weekly routine.
ReplyDeleteWhile I agree with the main blog and quite a few valid points made in the comments section...I cannot help but feel a bit offended myself by the 'bad reputation' the term has gotten. I myself have been labeled the "cool girl", not because I have pretended to be something I am not in attempt to be approved by the male gender but rather because I have been naturally athletic. Therefore, I have been recruited to play on sports teams based on my athletic ability. For instance, I played soccer in city leagues, I currently box and do other martial arts that may be considered 'unladylike' but in doing so I feel strong and fit, and I feel like with every proverbial punch I throw, the thin ideal is defeated.
ReplyDeleteSurely, there have been guys who mistake my laid back attitude for being 'less emotional' or 'mercurial' than other girls/women. I simply had the kind of upbringing that made me independent (vs. Codependent) and like to do for myself, I like to work on my car if it is a simple fix within my means, I like to hang up my own pictures and shelves, etc. I do not mind getting my hands dirty or "breaking a nail" as ignorant comments would have it doing something I enjoy. But that is all to say, just like we do not like to be shamed for being "like a girl" in many respects. Do not be so quick to shame to the girl who feels more comfortable in the company of boys or men, whether it is due to genuine mutual interests (such as the above mentioned poker or cars) or because she simply wants to learn other skills or lessons from them.
Personally, I feel accomplished when I possess a 'non traditional' skill or hobby because many times being the "cool girl" has served me to pass that skill on, empower other women to learn, all while breaking stereotypes, which is what we all are striving for right?
Just this past week I had two friends (who do not know each other and socialize with me in two different arenas) compliment me for being the one girl who is not afraid to use her voice to challenge others and/or to help defend those who have muted their voices. I am proud to be a cool girl because we have to start somewhere, perhaps one day being the "cool girl" will be synonymous with just being the best version of yourself, the one that exudes confidence in our own abilities and potential.
Hi Sayra! Thanks for your comment! I agree 100% that a girl should not be shamed for wanting to hang out with guys. There is nothing wrong with hanging out with guys and doing more traditionally masculine activities. A girl should never feel like she has to be something different than who she is. The "cool girl" from the quote is being all those things to please someone else while suppressing her own needs and emotions. I don't even think she should be shamed. It's more of a society problem in my opinion. A mindfulness practice is a great way to help girls struggling with that problem to figure out who they are and what they enjoy for themselves. It's also a great way to help everyone be less judgmental and more true to themselves.
DeleteI like that you brought up the negative stigma of the cool girl Sayra. I do think labels in general are a root of the problem because once you have chosen a label for someone, aware or not you feel some sense of relief because you now think you have some more insight kn that person but each person is different. The cool girl is so often seen as vapid, shallow, not genuine and so on but not every cool girl changed herself to be that, she just possessed some socially desired qualities. For that reason their struggles are not always valid in the eys of others because they have had it 'easy'.
DeleteIn regards to mindfulness I think that is great and beneficial but I do think it is important to also reach young girls about their voice, and how to be assertive in the right ways. It is just as important to teach girls how to vocalize their experience and struggle as it is to help them handle the stress of when you cannot quite control it all.
This is such a great topic, Liz. The "cool girl" stereotype is very real, and I have known several girls that tried to be that girl. In itself, being the cool girl isn't necessarily a bad thing, as long as it holds true to who they really are. If a girl is naturally athletic and beautiful, gets along well with the boys, and is a very positive person, then she may be labeled a "cool girl". The problem arises when men (or women) place unrealistic expectations on girls to fit this desired label. Particularly for a girl who does not already possess some of the qualities that might be considered cool, this can cause a lot of stress. Trying to be someone you are not, always trying to please others and worrying about fitting this mold is a lot of added stress - stress on top of the normal stresses that girls and women already face on a day to day basis. Even worse, a lot of the messages girls receive about being cool are contradictory. How can a girl eat a bunch of junk food and still have the body of a "model"? (maybe some girls can, but that doesn't hold true for the majority of girls). I agree that it is important to teach girls at a young age to be genuine and true to themselves. In the end, people will see past false representations. Being true to who you are will gain respect and appreciation, and it is important for girls to understand this when they are young. I love the idea of teaching girls how to be mindful. This is something I hadn't tried until very recently, and these strategies can be really effective in helping girls experience their authentic feelings while also reducing stress.
ReplyDeleteThis is a very interesting topic. I think there are a lot of girls that struggle with this problem and I think the reason is because so many men perpetuate the desire for girls who do not talk back, do not have desires of their own and let them do whatever they want. These guys, I don't think, truly want a relationship with those girls, but rather, they simply want a relationship that provides for them.
ReplyDeleteI think its important that girls develop their own wants and desires, and then act on them. I think its equally as important that in relationships the man should support and actively encourage their partner achieve their ambitions. Supporting how a girl looks and what she can provide the guy, I think, simply reenforces the idea that the guy only want's her for those things.
Perhaps the problem is not being called cool, but being called a cool girl as if girls aren't already cool. There is an implied "for a girl" there and I think that is the problem. Also, it seems that certain positive qualities are associated with guys instead of both girls and guys, like being laid back, intelligent, athletic, or independent. It should not be unusual for girls to have any of these qualities. If someone were to say to you, "Oh you are a smart girl", would you not feel offended a little that they had to say girl instead of just person? Yes, girls and women are beautiful, but that doesn't mean we can't also possess many other qualities.
ReplyDeleteI think part of the point of this blog is to consider the kind of pressure girls feel to be considered cool. We all have different experiences, but in my own experience I have heard guys speak about girls in such a way as to describe them as overly emotional and unreasonable. The term “crazy bitch” comes to mind and I have heard that term thrown around by guys, especially when I was younger. When you hear that as a young girl, you may think that that is something you don’t want to be called so you may try to act more “chill”.
This divides girls in my opinion, which is a seriously unfortunate consequence. Girls who do express themselves outwardly when they are not happy about something may feel judged by other “cool girls” who conceal how angry they are, even if those girls aren’t judging them. I think girls should have the freedom to explore all their potential qualities without considering if this or that is girly or not. Who cares if it is girly or not girly if it is something that brings them happiness. Women should not have to feel like their worth is threatened by other varieties of women.
I agree that meditation and yoga are great ways to get more in touch with what I would call your inner voice. By practicing meditation and yoga, girls may feel more clear about who they are and what they want out of life and themselves. Knowing more clearly who you are empowers you to become the person you want to be. I am all for yoga and meditation practices being implemented in schools. I was fortunate enough to have my first exposure to yoga in high school. My school offered Ashtanga yoga as a class and my teacher was fabulous. We would even have journal days where each student had the opportunity to express their deeper feelings in an accepting environment. I remember being impressed by the openness and genuineness of one girl who expressed herself one day and I have never forgotten that. Anyway, women should love other women and support each other, because loving other women is loving yourself.
This is very well put!
ReplyDeleteI feel like the whole "cool girl" is one of those unattainable goal that is a farce as it has honestly is this unattainable contradiction. I think guys kind of think of this as one of those things where they don't want to meet women where they are. Rather, we are socialized to request that others meet us where we are instead. This can be seen when looking at the ideals of the "cool girl" as shoe has a majority of male characteristics and a few fundnental female ones aswell. This does set quite the unfair standard and honestly is one thing I haven't really considered.
I think the observation about tomboy-ish girls are also plunked into this category when really its another type of identity that is fine for anyone who holds such a persona.
I personally agree with Tesa as my first thought was to think about why we must put these boxes around people. The idea that there are some "cool" does set people aside from others - defining them outside the norm even though it is usually seen as a positive thing. It struck me how much emphasis we place on these labels. What's further is that these labels are very subjective and what seems "cool" to me may not be so to the next guy or gal. This kind of goes against the 'cool girl' ideal as I understand it because I think one of the big things that defines this persona is that everyone seems to like and revere this woman.
It really kind of is one of those things I think we need to make a concerted effort to break in our societal view of things as it is only harmful to perpetuate the stereotype that all these things are attainable and reasonable.
Mindfulness can absolutely be a useful tool to use with all people. There is a common misconception that it can be useful with people who need it - but honestly, the research shows that even as little as one minute of mindfulness a day can reduce stress, anxieties and depressive symptoms which we all have tidbits of with or without a diagnosis. Will this solve the problem of this stereotype? I don't know - but I do know it has benefitted me greatly in understanding myself as a person.
Liz, this is a very thought-provoking read. It certainly seems like an transparent depiction of the conflicts that some women may face when grappling with being the "cool girl," as you described. I thought you made an interesting statement here: "Being a cool girl is just being a guy in a hot girl's body." Upon reading this, I paused and thought about two things: 1. the perpetuation of binary gender roles and 2. biases against traditional femininity.
ReplyDeleteWhile society may be making (slow) progress towards embracing gender fluidity, your post illuminates that there is still a lot of progress yet to be made. More specifically, there exists still a pervasive stereotype that women are crazy, and men are sane. However, I love your suggestion of promoting self-acceptance (through mindfulness, etc.) - this seems it would be beneficial across all sexes and gender identities and could potentially de-polarize these stereotypes.
With regards to biases against more traditionally feminine qualities (i.e., sensitivity, beauty, etc.), it is frustrating to me that women are faced with societal expectations to give up those qualities. I have personally experienced being shamed, specifically by certain men, for being emotional. Rather than confidently harnessing my "power" of sensitivity and tenderness at every occasion with those very men, I have struggled with feeling pressure to "toughen up" in an effort to satisfy them. Regardless, I now know that I am free to be myself as are they - and, we can all challenge each other to be the best versions of ourselves, whether that means being "cool" or not. (I am most definitely not "cool"... :) )
Liz,
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed your post and I found the movie Gone Girl extremely intriguing when I watched it two years ago. A thought that came to mind while reading is that I think girls are often labeled as "crazy" when they seem to be inconsistent. I think all girls, depending on extent, are struggling between how they I really feel and how their actions/words affect others. During our first week of class, we discussed the idea of "crossroads". There are times when girls may unconsciously be conforming to the stereotype that they should be submissive, quiet, and cooperative under all circumstances and other times when they are consciously aware in the moment that they need to speak up for themselves and say how they feel. I've been thinking about this a lot lately in reference to my own life and I think it takes awareness and practice to consciously learn to overcome this battle. I am a firm believer that you should own who you are and to some extent, that will usually place you into or close to a stereotypical category. But as girls learn to be confident, say how they feel, and stand up for what they believe in, I think they can learn to accept who they are no matter what society is trying to tell them about themselves.
I love the idea of using mindfulness to promote growth like this in girls for their self awareness of the thoughts that circulate through their minds. I can definitely catch myself letting thoughts control me often. Mindfulness is a great exercise to separate yourself from your thoughts and realize that your thoughts do not have to be so connected to how you see yourself and see the world. This is a huge help when we have so many messages from society and media that we become unaware of overtime that are causing us a lot of distress.
I would like to start by stating that I thoroughly enjoyed your post! I too have also shared or listened in on conversations with male friends and in those moments I found myself in a screaming match. "All girls are crazy" seemed to be their favorite discussion or better yet "crazy girls are better in bed". I think it is so difficult for girls to truly grow into themselves when they are surrounded by these contradictions. Mindfulness techniques are awesome ways to provide clarity. It helps to create a clear mind and a clear atmosphere. You become more aware of the world around you decisions become less emotional and more reality based.
ReplyDeleteThe “cool girl” sterotype makes me cringe. It stands in the way of young girls and women truly accepting and embracing their own personality. It is a confinement almost, narrowing the types of women and brewing a fear in women who dare to flee from this imprisonment. This process can be very stressful which is why mindfulness techniques should be heavily promoted
Hi Liz,
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed your blog and the recommendation to develop daily mindfulness practices to battle the constant barrage of negative messages girls receive. The expectation to appear cool and be perfect, despite being highly distressed, can be paralyzing for girls and women. I felt your blog aligned nicely with the readings this week which encouraged parents to help young girls “relax a little, take a deep breath, and recognize that she can be a high achiever without being perfect in every area of life.” Through mindfulness, girls can focus on their true desires and quieten their minds in order to truly explore their “hidden talents”. Through mindfulness, girls can develop the mental strength to remain true to their own identities and block messages which serve to undermine their authentic identity.
Hi Liz,
ReplyDeleteI think that young girls nowadays are being bombarded by the "cool stereotype" more than ever. This, without doubt, causes so much stress for girls. I really agree to everything you said and it is so sad and upsetting to see girls trying to be that "cool girl" with the only purpose to be accepted among boys. Girls at this young age, they just start developing in terms of their maturity, personality, even in the physical context. I do believe that these mindfulness exercises can help girls to gain confidence and love for their bodies and personalities. This type of exercises can help girls to be focused on who they really are and to be focus on themselves as well. It can also help them to be present and realize that they do not need to follow that "cool girl stereotype" in order to feel loved and appreciated.
Liz,
ReplyDeleteI remember coming across the quote when I read Gone Girl and how it really stood out to me. I am so glad that you featured this quote on your blog because it gives me a chance to process it a little more and it it’s interesting to see what others have written about it as well.
I second what several people have written about how being “cool” just adds one more thing to the already impossible list that young girls think they have to be. And Kimhdy, I totally agree with what you wrote about how contradictory messages can cause some women and girls so much stress and pressure that it can have detrimental effects in their lives.
Liz, (several others have said this but..) I commend you for recommending interventions that use expressive arts rather than just groups and “words.” Like Jacki mentioned, some girls aren’t old enough to be able to process stress verbally and talk about contradictory messages in groups. As a school counselor I can see myself using your idea in the future and advocating for yoga classes or yoga “breaks” in my school. Thanks for a great read!
I believe this quote at the top of the blog is what hurts every female no matter the body type or interests. As a male, I know that this description is a description of a very "cool girl" and this type of female would be extremely attractive to most males. Unfortunately, this type of cool girl does not typically exist and it puts females in a difficult situation. Females may feel pressure to live up to this "cool girl" standard but it is not a realistic expectation. Many people have already commented that this cool girl persona is just another thing that females must live up to be. Females are forced to do anything and everything and be successful at everything they do. I really like that you included the stress relief resources because I believe this cool girl persona adds a lot of stress to females' lives for no reason. And these resources can be used as tools to help deal with the extra stress in order to focus on what is truly important in their lives instead of living up to the cool girl persona.
ReplyDeleteWith every word in this blog it perfectly told the tale that many females go through on a daily basis. I think it is both the male and female to blame for this type of behavior. I think the female is to blame because as we talked about last week girls are constantly vying for attention and to be the “big girl” on campus with all of the popularity. Guys are to blame because they only make matters worse by throwing oil in the fire. To answer the question, yes. I think that the impossible standard of being the cool girl does cause stress for girls. But worse than that I believe it just sets them up to fail at some point in life and not leave them prepared for when they must grow up and begin their lives with a family. I think the cool girl stereotype is a condition in which it may be looked at as being ideal or what you must do, but as discussed, it will never be attainable.
ReplyDeleteIn a sense, the resources help an individual to look at themselves and focus on relaxing both physically and mentally. For those who struggle with trying to be the “cool girl” this well help them to believe and trust themselves rather than to seek pleasure from outside sources and pleasing everyone in a way that just hurts yourself.
Being a girl is really hard. Being a not "cool girl" can make it even harder especially when you are chasing something that does not exist. I remember being in high school just wanting to be part of the "cool girls" group but never feeling like I lived up to those expectations. However, as I grew up and experienced new things, I came to realize that this girl is not possible. But we see other girls as getting much closer to that image than we can be. It seems unfair that this girl can have it all and you are barely staying above water to blow dry your hair in the morning. I am not sure about the other females but it becomes really hard to feel successful when you are always comparing yourself to something nonexistent.
ReplyDeleteI think it was a really nice change of pace that you included those links because sometimes we get too caught up in everything we forget that we are enough.
This was a really amazing read. I agree with every point you made about the cool girl stereotype. I can think of many girls that fall into this stereotype. That's why it's important to encourage girls to be themselves no matter what. It may be their personality to be involved with everything or want to experience different things. Of course girls will try different things while finding themselves. However, the goal shouldn't be to fit in or be accepted. I believe in the solutions you put forward. I will take these into consideration when working with young girls.
ReplyDeleteThis is a great blog! I agree with your blog. I can remember in high school and college that I gravitated more to my male friends. They would always call me "a perfect dude's girl." As I am older, I still maintain closer relationships with males than females but I have found a balance from athlete/girlie girl/cool girl/a dude's girl. I read and listened to all of the exercises you posted and want to say "thank you!" They are very helpful and I intend to use them with my daughter and females athletes.
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